Well it’s been over a month since my last post. Whoops! I guess you could say raising two tiny humans has been a bit more challenging than I had imagined. For those of you who don’t know, taking care of more than one kid is really, really hard. I had hoped to post sooner. Lots has happened to Team Buell! Barrett turned one month and then two, Cody turned two and there’s been a lot of crazy stuff happen along the way. But every time I sat down to write, I had a butt to wipe, a mouth to feed or a child to rock. Whew! I say this not as a complaint or an excuse but as a means of sharing what my experience has been like as a mom of two. It’s been hard. Sometimes brutal.
But I’ve currently got one baby in my arms and the other one is sleeping so here I am to report on my life as a mom of two. The struggle has been real but there have also been some pretty sweet moments in the last two months, including:
- Cody kissing her brother on the head often and without prompting
- Barrett beginning to perk up smile regularly, especially after his tongue tie revision
- Being cleared for all things fun (within moderation) at my 6-week visit
- Both kids napping simultaneously about 50 percent of the time (even if it is only long enough for me to take a shower)
- Getting a night away at a hotel to get a proper night’s rest (thank you, dear husband!)
Now for the realness of our struggle… Over the last 2 months I feel this poor baby has really been through the ringer. Cody as a newborn was super sleepy and a very good eater, and Mr. Barrett was cut from an entirely different cloth. After the newborn haze lifted we noticed that B wasn’t just slightly more restless, he had some genuine issues that required much attention.
Our first identified challenge was painful reflux, which wasn’t well managed by Zantac. Prevacid has worked well, however my insurance took a long time to approve it. Imagine my shock when my pharmacist told me the out of pocket expense would be $800 for some adult reditabs! Fortunately, we go to a compounding pharmacy (shout out to Beattie’s!) that was able to create a liquid compound of the medication, which is not only much easier to give a baby via syringe but also a small fraction of the cost.
When B’s comfort improved some, we still noticed some pretty big issues with nursing. Thanks to our incredible lactation consultant Dana Freece with Morning Star Moms and good friend Dr. Scott Sharp at Rocky Mountain ENT Associates, we identified that Barrett had a tongue tie. Since he was still pretty fussy at the breast, we opted for a frenulectomy (cutting the flap of skin that attaches the tongue to the bottom of the mouth). He’s been much happier since then and we’ve been working on his tongue stretches with great results.
Through all these challenges, I’ve been incredibly blessed by a pretty wonderful support system – my husband and our amazing babysitters truly save my life. One thing I highly recommend to expecting moms that I wish I had done in advance of Barrett’s arrival is have a roster of support, both personal and professional (lactation consultant, postpartum doula, babysitters, etc.) so that you’re not scrambling to find reliable support when you’re already in crisis mode because you just had a baby. Finding people you know and trust in advance is awesome insurance for your postpartum days.
We seem to be on the other side of the major medical challenges with this little dude (knock on wood, y’all!). It may have taken longer than it did with Cody, but I now feel I am better tuned into B’s needs. I’ve definitely learned important lessons in both patience and flexibility. Sometimes Cody watches tv while I rock Barrett, sometimes Barrett’s naps happen in the swing, carrier or car seat and that’s ok! I’m working on embracing the chaos, relishing the sweet moments and giving myself credit when we have a good day rather than just assuming it’s a fluke.